What to do when hope no longer floats your marriage boat?

Being black married and hopeful helped home stay afloat for a long time...until it didn't. It is hard to stay hopeful when things are crashing and burning all around you. 

sometimes the wisest thing to do is to save yourself from the fire. Taking with you nothing more than what you can gather of your dignity and pride.

what you gather is really not so much of importance as long as you survive. if you survive the flames, mostly unscathed then at least you can start over. Starting over is hard. it does appear that you have nothing to work with. It would appear quite tragic to onlookers, nosey tea sippers, dumb podcasters and the like.

 HOWEVER!!! What's not accounted for so much is what is on the inside of you. The things you packed with you on your way out.  Your hidden treasures of resilience, courage, resourcefulness will begin to sprout forth from inside of you making apparent the true beauty that you really are. Your insides are still fertile. 

Your insides are not damaged goods even though your physical body has been drug through not only the mud but fire and brimstone too. the flames couldn't scorch your insides, it only refined them. 

So to you dear readers that have lost hope in your marriage for one reason or another I am here to say..you may lose the marriage, but you will never lose you. and you can place your hope that you will get through this...so many people have. you can place your hope in God or the Universe that everything is working together for your highest good. you can place your hope in a brighter better future, once you quit what is hurting you today. 

Let me not end it there. I don't want to ill equip you for the journey ahead. There will be hard days still, but think of those days as you tilling the soil getting ready to plant seeds for a bountiful harvest of peace, joy unspeakable and maybe even love will bloom again. Trust that you have it in you what you need for the next part of your journey.