The Dreamer

Finding out that my personality could be lumped in the category of The Dreamer really makes a lot of sense to me. It explains my hopeful outlook, my optimistic input into others situations, and my idealistic fantasies about the way that life shoulda coulda be for my self and those I love and care about. 

 What to do when hope no longer floats your marriage boat?

Being black married and hopeful helped home stay afloat for a long time...until it didn't. It is hard to stay hopeful when things are crashing and burning all around you. 

sometimes the wisest thing to do is to save yourself from the fire. Taking with you nothing more than what you can gather of your dignity and pride.

what you gather is really not so much of importance as long as you survive. if you survive the flames, mostly unscathed then at least you can start over. Starting over is hard. it does appear that you have nothing to work with. It would appear quite tragic to onlookers, nosey tea sippers, dumb podcasters and the like.

 HOWEVER!!! What's not accounted for so much is what is on the inside of you. The things you packed with you on your way out.  Your hidden treasures of resilience, courage, resourcefulness will begin to sprout forth from inside of you making apparent the true beauty that you really are. Your insides are still fertile. 

Your insides are not damaged goods even though your physical body has been drug through not only the mud but fire and brimstone too. the flames couldn't scorch your insides, it only refined them. 

So to you dear readers that have lost hope in your marriage for one reason or another I am here to say..you may lose the marriage, but you will never lose you. and you can place your hope that you will get through this...so many people have. you can place your hope in God or the Universe that everything is working together for your highest good. you can place your hope in a brighter better future, once you quit what is hurting you today. 

Let me not end it there. I don't want to ill equip you for the journey ahead. There will be hard days still, but think of those days as you tilling the soil getting ready to plant seeds for a bountiful harvest of peace, joy unspeakable and maybe even love will bloom again. Trust that you have it in you what you need for the next part of your journey.

dreary mornings yet peppy morning..no coffee!!

It's easy to get going on a Saturday morning when my husband's home! He lies in bed while I wander about, freshening up, picking up this, and discipling that one. It gives me real purpose and a sense of accomplishment to see the house get back tidy after a night of family time. Oh my gosh my two year old was all the place last night and early into the wee hours of the morning!!! She strolled here, had a tea party there, wasted milk all the while serving me as I visited Mrs. Lori's blog. I mean, I really like this lady's blog! She used to be a school teacher so maybe that's why her blog is so profound yet simple to understand and read. Now back to my two year old..she just wouldn't go to bed so I did what any sleep deprived parent who's in a loving relationship with an amorous husband nursing a 6 month old would do: I made her a palet on my side of the bed on the floor and rocked her with my one foot that hung over the bed! I rocked her back with my foot until she fell asleep while I got the pleasure of watching "Deliver Us from Eva" laid up next to my hubby. So about the coffee, I'm out! I have been going to my apartment's office to get my 'fix' this whole week! Good thing my husband brought me a root beer last night, so I will drink that instead of getting out there in that dreary weather! :)

I'm 4 months LATE!

Yes I know I just blogged about having Nathaniel in September, but yall I'm late!!!! I am ok with it! NO, I am more than ok with it, I am ECSTATIC!!! YES! Quiver full Mama here I come!! :) Well this is my first public announcement, but I'm sure in a few months there will be no question about it as my belly leads the way!!!

Psalm 127:3

New Living Translation (NLT)

³ Children are a gift from the Lord;
    they are a reward from him.

Is my man EVIL or did he make a MISTAKE?

Most  men are normal, but we women can be quick to call them evil monsters the minute they do something that cuts us deeply. Check out this post from Lori to see that some men just make mistakes PERIOD!



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Always Learning: Is Marriage Hard Work?: I was talking with a precious friend of mine yesterday and we were discussing my blog and she made this comment: "Marriage is difficult... do yourself a favor women and check out this godly woman's blog! :P



here's the comment I left on this post on her blog:Hi Lori!



" I feel like marriage can be really hard like during the adjustment period, when you're trying to get used to living together or like you said if you have a strong personality. I can relate because i have ALWAYS been bossy and am now LEARNING how to "boss femininely" when my husband is around the kids and I, however i need to do it full time not just when he is around! uh oh!! Marriage has been really hard for me, but I am in process like you mentioned here, I am learning to bite my tounge not defend the kids, not suggest to many things to do or volunteer his time etc..praictice will make perfect! I read Created to be his help meet and it stopped me dead in my tracks!! It was like a road map and I saw myself headed in the WRONG direction so I made a turn around. I may stumble along this road less traveled but boy is the view a whole lot prettier, the people a whole lot friendlier and the future a whole lot brighter! I love that book! That and fascinating womanhood. Now that I am practicing I'd say marriage went from a level 1 difficulty but balanced around a 4 or 5 level satisfaction, and now is blossoming into a 8,9,10!"

I'm back!!

Public service announcement to all of my three followers (of whom I think myself am one!!) I'm baaacccck! Yes!! This is so much better than my face book page and queenly reign that I host? Is that the term for pages you create? Host? Well anyway, I've been on R-n-R from this blog, but then again not on the R-n-R that I implied when I left! What homemaker truly goes on highadas(how ever you spelled that dang blasted word!!)? Well I've still been studying motherhood, wifely duties, homemaking and more like gardening, discipline of children(**hey I just got a revelation of that word Discipline! A big chunk of that word is disciple! Meaning if I take my children on all 5 of them and those to come that means to me that I will take them under my wing and teach them personally step by step everything that I want them to know and be there to answer their questions and show them how to perform their duties! How loving?  I almost said I liked that idea more than spanking. But my "ideas" are worthless in light of God's expressed commands in his word to get our child in line by the rod! I mean, its a powerful tool, don't you think? Anyway..) just to name a few,  that's mainly it though. I'm glad to be able to express myself here, although I'm not so sure a lady of discretion would do so:/ ?