Have you ever noticed how guys often time criticize non directly? They'll say something like I can't stand a person who does this or that, and it's the very thing you do? My point is in the bible I believe Jesus was talking to women non directly when he said why do you look at the spec in your brothers eye, when you do not even know there is a log in your own eye. First take out the log in your eye then you may see clearly enough to take out your brothers spec. But I think by the time you do take out the log in your eye you'll either be too embarrassed to even mention the spec in your brothers eye, or you'll notice that he's not so bad after all. Either way the point is that change should begin with yourself. Some of us think that if this person would only do this or that we would be happy. But would we really? If we've never even had it before, how would we know it would make us happy or how would we know that it will be good for us spirtiually, phsyically or emotionally? Maybe it's safe to go back to what you know does work, and stick with perfecting that. What made you happy in the past that you did? How can you get back to that? I just think it's a start and a safer bet at being happy than waiting on someone else to make you happy. Their busy trying to make themselves happy anyway.
I know that life has to be more than just trying to make yourself happy, I'm just thinking that when it comes to nagging, unhappiness may be at the root of it. You know, discontentment? If you were too busy being happy how could you have time to nag anyone else about what they're not doing right. You don't even have to be busy being happy, you could just be busy being busy. A nag must have too much free time on his/her hands. They should just get busy! I think a remedy for nagging is to just get busy! Start working on something you know needs to be done, start giving attention where attention is due, and the one place it isn't due is aimed negatively towards your spouse. I love my husband and I am begininng to see more and more as I type this, the type of nag I must be to him when ever I demand he tell me I'm beautiful, or to call me, and write me love notes. How you gone force somebody to write you a love note? sounds pretty unlovely to me, but it does speak volumes to the desire I have to be loved by my husband. Again I will compare it to the desire he must have that I respect him.
I notice that men say fewer words than women. I type a paragraph to every once sentence my husband writes me. So what on earth could I be going on and on about? With so little to go on, only one sentence, how do I get so much fuel to write an entire paragraph? Oh I know the anwser, I start reading between the lines, and adding in my own words to what he's clearly stated. How rude. That has to be super annoying for a man to say and mean one thing only for his woman to read more into it, and be off by a mile at that. Why do women have such a hard time accepting a man of few words. I would just reckon that the ones who do this were not taught that a man says what he means and that's all he means. They don't speak in codes like women do. Women are always tring to read into something their female speaking companion has just said. We take one statement and develope 50 questions for it. men do not do this and are not asking for legnthy explanations. They do not get high off of conversation as we women do. So I'm suggesting that we keep it short and sweet for our men and lay it on thick for our women friends. Men will appreciate the blunt and honest approach and women will savor all the details. that's just how we are I guess. Can I remember this?
#1 Keep converstion short and sweet for my man
#2 Enjoy sharing the details with women, they'll appreciate it, and it bonds us.
#3 Don't criticize a man...directly or even at all. This will take some practice. Good thing that according to fascinating womanhood, we're allowed to make mistakes and it encourages women by saying we should allow up to two years for this magic to work fully. To me that's plenty of time to muck things up and start all over again.
Ok to sum up respect I've come up with a few catchy slogans:
communication: short and sweet
behaviour: cute and touchy
sex: submissive and receptive
help meet: don't over rule, stay cool ;)
wife: kind and nice
friend: till the end
Let's talk about that last slogan, how do we treat our friends? We keep most confindent their secret confessions worries doubts and fears. We try not to offend them, but are honest with them about the way they are coming across. And a true friend doesn't even get mad when a character deficiency is pointed out, they simply take the other friends word for it, or if they don't believe it they ask for examples of said disfunction, and come to believe it's true because the examples of the friend will most likely be accurate depictions of you. Why can't we trust our spouses the same? Don' t get me wrong, I'm not saying that all couples can't trust eachother, but divorce rates are skyrocketting and the lack of trust in the relationship, just might have somehing to do with that.
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