In my mind I often relate the submissiveness of a wife and the obedience of a wife to that of a child. I find it helps me relate to what is expected of a wife in relation to her husband. Since submission has to do with placing oneself under the leadership of another I find the closet relationship to me besides my husband is that of my children and they are under my leadership. So it's not about the worth of my husband or myself rather the ordained order that God has put us in. Any way, being around my own children a significant amount of hours per day (we just spent the entire summer together with no cable! I have four children by the way!) has made me really sensitive to their behavior, be it respectful, disrespectful, obedient or disobedient.
I often think of my own behavior towards my husband when my children are dragging their feet about a command I have given them. I think to myself ,"I told them to get ready we're about to go over 30 minutes ago and I want them ready now!" Of course they aren't close to being ready which really sets me off, but then I think about my husband again, maybe not in that moment but some point after my mind is quiet, and I count the times when I delayed in carrying out his wishes. How many times had I unknowingly ruined his plans? What good things did he have in my for me before I disrespected him?! You ladies know the feelings if you have kids how they mess up a special treat you had in mind for them by their disobedience or disrespectful attitude towards you. I submit to you ladies that we become more childlike in the way we model our obedience towards our husbands. If it were my child being given a order/request how would I want them to respond? And then model that response for them to see. We mothers are our child's first teachers and whether they respect us or disrespect us is directly related to what we have modeled to them by our related to our own authority- our husbands. Could you pretend to be childlike towards your husband? Could you practice the obedience to your husband that you so desire of your children. Now we women are Not children in the sense that we blindly obey our husbands never questioning him, but this should be the exception and not our general responses to our husbands. How annoying is it when you tell your child to do something and they ask you 50 million questions about your decision as if you just pulled it out of your butt instead of thinking it through?! So we have to be wise not stupid. Most of all we have to be biblical, as long as our husbands aren't asking us to sin we should make submissiveness our default response. You may fight him for leadership if you want to, but this behavior will jot endure him to you. You will only repell him by being a bratt, think of how annoying your child can be and how the woman described as the constant dripping in proverbs. Would you want to be described as either of those by the man you love? I don't. I'm not saying it's easy to be submissive, but as Christian women we are called to it by God therefore He will empower us to do it. I hope the analogy of child likeness gave you a better understanding of submission. I hope it gave you a glimpse at the issue from a man's point of view, because like it or not they are our heads! :) Love you, God bless~~
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